Re: [DEHAI] ABOUT ERITREAN WOMEN.

S.Zerai (S.Zerai@sheffield.ac.uk)
Mon, 8 Sep 1997 13:59:50 +0100

Hi!
First i would like to take this apportunity to explain my opinion on
Eritrean women.Eventhough we can not generalize people as all are the
same because nobody in the whole world are the same.
But let me tell how i fell about guys too.Before you judge women you
have to learn a lot yourselfs,as Ogbazion put it down when you first
see them in parties they don't who you are either a graduate or not,
BUT let me tell something to ask a girl out you don't have to be a
millionere or a college gradute ,initially it is like a click,you get
a felling towords that person it is something you like or love about
the person ,education and who they are comes next.
But it is funny people put their hand in their pocket because they
are educated or have money and expect the women to like them ,first
be confident in who you are and respect and show care to that women
splash of money doesn't impress anyone or your brain is only your own
You have to learn to love an be passionate and you have to know how
to talk to women.

NOT ALL,but generally Eritrean guys judge women unfairly,and have
poor ways of approachin or treating women INITIALLY ( i hope some
women might agree with me. If the women is quite and shy you think
she is a deciplined women ,if she is outgoing she is (ewala)you think
maybe she flert with everyone .If she is stone faced you find it hard
to approach her so how do like women to react ?But now i am glad you
can see very confident women which show their true feeling .And men
found that hard to accept comparing to how it use to be at home "you
are only a women so you have to accept to what a man asks you too"

Someone was talking about Eritrean women say no eventhough they wants
you,and the answer for this is they have to come out of their nests
be awake for the present situation.But it can also be due to men
,they might think the guy will say that she is too quick to say
yes,because you men do that and that is bull.Which Eritrean men will
go out if a women (Eritrean )asks him out ,i am sure you fell that
you have lost your priority,and will so no.
So in conclusion if i say both women and men Eritreans have to try to
react to the present situation and act themselves ,felling free ,talk
openly so atleast ,atleast our childreen and gradnchildreen will
benefit from it.

But i quite believe about Eritrean women character so frustrating
sometimes but it is on both sides and men have to accept the changes
and feedom of women otherwise people will end up marrying from
different cultures all together.
It is not easy for both men and women who brought up in different
circmstances and adapted their traditional dads and mums behaviour to
change .so both parties have to work hard .
I will be willing to answer you and enquires which you don't agree
feel free everyone have their oun opinion.
love
smret
DENTAL SCHOOL